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  • coffeehousereader 9:17 pm on February 25, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , Doubt, , , , Love   

    Silent Savior by A. J. Gregory 

    I was a bit leery on checking this book out of the library. I’ve read books on how to deal when it seems as though God is silent.  They read like a giant Christian cliché.  I was hoping this was not going to be another ones of those types of books.  I was in for a pleasant surprise.

    A. J. Gregory writes with honesty.  She doesn’t sugar coat the tough times or make you feel that if you aren’t praying enough or doing x, y, z that you’re not following God’s will and that’s why He’s silent.  Nope.  She struggles with doubts as well.  Some days faith isn’t as easy as it appears and trusting God is a challenge.  It was very refreshing to read a book by a believer where they let themselves be completely vulnerable with their audience.  There was no fakery in her words.

    If you’re struggling with knowing that God is there I recommend this book.  I’ve had my own dry spiritual spells and they suck.  I used to have such a stronger faith, but sometimes it feels as though it’s been put on the back burner.  I know it takes trust and patience. I know in time I’ll come full circle and be in the spot I am meant to be in my walk with Christ.  There’s no cookie cutter way to get there.  I’m glad for the time for growth and contemplation.  It’s tough going from a place where you’re fed Christianity 24/7 to having to work on it yourself.

     
    • wellwateredgarden 9:46 pm on February 25, 2010 Permalink

      Re: I know I’ll come full circle and be in that spot I’m supposed to be … actually – faith says that you’re in that spot all the time … believe it!

  • coffeehousereader 1:31 pm on February 14, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: Drug Addiciton, Jodie Sweetin, Love, , Sobriety, UnSweetined   

    UnSweetined by Jodie Sweetin 

    Growing up one of my favorite shows was, “Full House.” I always idolized Candace Cameron.  I always thought she was gorgeous and this perfect role model.  I never really thought much about her middle sister on the show Stephanie.  Then I was browsing the library this past week and saw a memoir with a really gorgeous woman on the cover.  I flipped it over and there was Stephanie Tanner staring back at me.  I looked through it and thought this might be a very cheesy read, but I’m game for it.

    I started it yesterday and I could not put it down.  From the first sentence I was hooked.  Maybe I’m a total sap, but this book wasn’t sugar-coated to make the words go down easy.  Growing up a child star was not easy for Jodie.  From the age of five until she was thirteen she had the routine of being on “Full House” and gaining a whole new family on set and off the set.  The cast was very close and they actually enjoyed hanging out with each other when they weren’t airing an episode.  Once “Full House” was no longer in production Jodie didn’t know where she fit in.  This is her story of having to grow up quick and what life altering adventures she gets into.

    I usually don’t read celebrity gossip type of books.  This won won my heart over.  Jodie tells it like it is honestly and to the point.  It’s refreshing to read about an actress and feel like by the end of the book that you can actually know her in a way.  Not in a, “I know all this dirt on you,” kind of way, but in more of a shared in special confidence kind of way.  If you’re a fan of “Full House,” or the actress I definitely recommend this book.

     
  • coffeehousereader 7:57 am on January 8, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: Giovanni's Room, , , Love, , , Sexual Identity   

    Giovanni’s Room By James Baldwin 

    This book is one slim little volume, but by the last page it changes you. This story takes place in Paris where a man named David is trying to discover himself. His girlfriend Hella has gone off to Spain to take some time to think about life and sightsee. While Hella is gone David encounters a dashing young man named Giovanni who works at a bar where a lot of young gay men hang out at. David’s friend he is staying with named Jacques introduces David and Giovanni. The latter becomes smitten with David.

    David has struggled with his sexual indentity. He does find Giovanni handsome and somewhat mysterious. Giovanni insists that David come home with him. The room is small and dirty. It’s cluttered. At first Giovanni’s affection and adoration help smooth over the claustraphobicness of the room. One day Giovanni comes home from working at the bar and says he’s been fired. He is seething mad, but still stays otomistic for David’s sake. David is asked if he can send a letter to his father in NY for money. He says he will, but he puts it off. He struggles between wanting Giovanni and desiring a normal future married life with Hella who has become his fiance when she returns from Spain.

    When Hella is going to return David leaves Giovanni and his stuffy room to think. David is gone for a few days to think. When he first sees Hella at the train station he’s thrilled to see her. They go to her hotel room to reconnect after being apart for so long. They look each other over, seeing if the other is still as committed as before. Later they are walking around town and are in a bookstore when they run into Giovanni and Jacques. Giovanni is dramatic and angry. He wonders where David has been. David introduces Hella to both men and poor Hella doesn’t know what to think of it all.

    After Hella and David leave the bookstore Hella tries to get David to open up about who this Giovanni is. David goes back to Giovanni to explain that they are over. Giovanni cries and begs for David to stay, but David remains firm. David leaves with Giovanni’s sadness and bitterness ringing in his ears. Weeks or months go by and David finds out that Giovanni might have gotten his job back at the bar. He is hoping things are going better for him. But then one day shocking news hits Paris. One man is dead and where is Giovanni?

     
    • Addie 9:15 am on January 9, 2010 Permalink

      This sounds like a great book… one I would read. I need to add this to my never ending list of to-read list.

  • coffeehousereader 5:50 am on December 31, 2009 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: Love, , , Sex Education, Sex Toys, Shannon Ethridge, The Sexually Confident Wife   

    The Sexually Confident Wife by Shannon Ethridge 

    This book cover has it’s charms. It’s black with hot pink lettering. It’s the kind of book that sort of makes you feel self conscious if you’re reading it in public, but once you peel back the cover and dive in it’s like a wise older woman pulling up to give you sound advice on how to be the best sexually confident wife you can be. I bought this book at least a year or so ago, but never got the courage up to crack it open. I finally decided to and it’s taken me a good long while to finish it, but it’s been worth taking my time reading it.

    The author, Shannon, goes over so many different topics about sex I blushed a number of times. I never thought I’d hear a Christian author talk about anal sex, creating a private husband and wife porno for their own viewing pleasure, getting away for a weekend filled with just sex. I felt like I could breath again and that not all Christian women are prudes or boring when it comes to such a deeply personal topic. Shannon wrote with humor, honesty and firmness at times.

    I was a bit shy to admit I was reading this. Didn’t the title sound like I was needing major help? That rather than being a wild fun woman I was instead a frumpy wife who was clueless in how to please her husband? After confessing the title I was currently reading to a new friend I found out she sounded interested in it too and that it sounded like a very helpful book. Maybe I’m not the only one who could use a friendly written marital book on sex.

    I would highly recommend this book to any wife who needs a little encouragement, or a lot of encouragement. You don’t have to be a Christian to read it. Shannon is sensitive and doesn’t preach at you. She even uses the word Higher Power occasionally. I’d even recommend husbands to read this book after their wives do since it does discuss ways in which couples can enhance their sexual life and sexual communication. I’m relieved and glad I chose to purchase this book. If only I’d read it sooner.

     
    • Jeff 5:55 am on December 31, 2009 Permalink

      Thumbs up! Thank you for, um, some interesting evenings around our home lately…

  • coffeehousereader 7:49 pm on December 10, 2009 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , , Compassion, , Groundlessness, Love, Mediation, No-Self, Spirit, Wisdom   

    Without Buddha I Could Not Be A Christian by Paul Knitter 

    This book took me almost a whole month to finish.  At times it felt like I was reading a textbook. It wasn’t boring like a textbook, but its slim volume was full of so much information. Considering I went into reading this book quite ignorant of Buddhism I can say after reading it I’ve gained more knowledge and understanding of what Buddhists believe and they way in which they living out their beliefs.

    It’s interesting to see both religions compared side by side and see how Buddhism can enhance Christianity.  I never thought it was possible.  I’m trying to think of how to explain this book.  There is so much in it that took so long to digest I fear I’m going to spoil it for those of you who might want to read it.  Mr. Knitter describes the basics of Buddhism and how it started.  Siddhartha the, man who would become Buddha, felt that his own religion (Hinduism) was lacking, so he decided to venture out and discover a more in-depth spirituality.  This led him to travel all over and met a cowherd woman named Sujata who gave him some rice-milk.  He had been fasting and praying for so long that he was able to feel his back bone from touching his stomach.    This woman’s kindness led him to realize that he wasn’t finding what he was searching for, so he decided to sit under the Bodhi tree.  By the following morning he awoke to realize that we’re all interconnected, constantly in motion and that when we are selfish we break our connectedness with each other.  Siddhartha is said to have continued to sit under the tree for the next 49 days.

    This book was a lot to take in.  Trying to review it is proving challenging.  There’s so much discussed it’s like reviewing a thick fat textbook when you feel like you’ve merely gotten only an overview of the class you’re going to be taking.

    In learning about how another belief system sees the world is a lot to take in.  It’s like growing up with a world view that is black and white and then you hear about a different world view where there’s lots of color.  It’s mind bending to understand your world through a different cultural lens.  Buddhists don’t believe in evil.  Growing up with sin being a key word hearing that not everyone believes there’s such a thing makes me want to go, “What? That’s a basic belief.”  Instead they feel that people do things out of ignorance out of not realizing who they truly are.  Buddhists believe that we are all interconnected with each other and they our goal should be to be no-self.  They believe we are groundless because we are always in constant motion.  We should instead care more about others and in caring for others we are truly caring for ourselves.  I know it sounds like Greek, but hopefully the way I’m writing this makes some sense.  Buddhism’s goal is for us to discover our Buddha nature which would mean we’d be compassionate and have wisdom in how to act in the moment.  They are big on focusing on the current moment.  Not the past or the future since one has gone and the other is yet to be.  Reading more about being in the now was fascinating. I think that’s a great way to focus one’s mind. If you’re too caught up in the past as I’ve been you miss out on all the awesome things happening in your life currently.  You go through life in a fog.  But then if you focus strictly on the future and waiting for x, y, z to occur you aren’t paying attention to what’s occurring now.  I have faltered previously in pining for the past.  It didn’t help me appreciate what I was going through at the time (high school).  Learning how to focus in the now and appreciate the emotions, sensations and thoughts I have right in the moment would be great for me.  Buddhists are big on meditating.  I am not practiced in this art form.  I was taught how to pray when I was little.  I think for Christians sitting still is a huge challenge.  We’re too focused on doing rather than being.  I still love the verse in the Bible that says, “Be still and know that I am God.”  That says a lot.  In order for us to truly know Him we have to be still.  I think that doesn’t just mean physically being still, but stilling our fast paced minds.

    At the end of the book Mr. Knitter asks if it’s possible for us to dip our toes into the lakes of other faiths/beliefs/religions.  I thought this was a good question to pose.  Is it possible to be raised a particular faith (Christianity) and learn from other beliefs and still keep your childhood faith?  The author believes it’s possible.  He still considers himself a Christian, but he’s learned so much for Buddhism and practicing it he considers himself a Buddhist Christian. It sounds somewhat blasphemous.  I think not learning about other beliefs has put me in the dark.  It makes it so that when I do meet others of different beliefs/faiths I don’t know how to interact with them.  It’s like I’m speaking Greek and they’re speaking Chinese. It’s sad because if I did understand where they’re coming from in regards to their faith there could be wonderful conversations, but because of being ignorant of someone else’s views I miss out on connecting with others. And now at the end of this post I’m sounding Buddhist.  I think I need to go rest my brain now. :)

     
    • dougrogers 9:31 am on December 11, 2009 Permalink

      Congratulations. I’ve seen so much misunderstanding show up in my Tag Reader from Christians talking about Buddhism that this was so refreshing.

    • Mrs. Micah 4:54 pm on December 11, 2009 Permalink

      I am looking forward to reading this even more, now! Maybe I’ll have a chance to thumb through it next time I’m in a larger bookstore. Our library copy isn’t processed yet.

      I’ve found Buddhism to be a useful tool in my spiritual journey, though not a spiritual path I want to follow in toto. I also found the book Living Buddha, Living Christ food for thoughts. It comes from the Buddhist side and I don’t agree with some of his assessments of Christian teaching–I’d say some interpretations are taken from passages without knowledge of other passages that help illuminate them. Like if the Bible were a collection of sayings rather than a narrative (and parts are a collection of sayings, but there’s a lot of self-referential stuff in it). Anyway, it’s still a good book. And the few misunderstandings (I feel free to call them misunderstandings because I don’t really know any group of Christians that sees them in the light he does and because I think he’s unaware of larger contexts) still provide an interesting look into what reading the Bible from an entirely different worldview would be like.

    • JM 7:30 am on December 13, 2009 Permalink

      Just finished this book, found your review and am wondering how you feel about what for me is the major issue that emerges from the text – why bother with Christianity? If its contradictions can’t be resolved without recourse to another more thoroughly developed system, why bother trying to patch up when a perfectly accessible and useful system is available?

  • coffeehousereader 9:56 am on November 7, 2009 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: Cancer, Devotion, , Love,   

    Me & The River by Carrie Host 

    The above book took me over a week to finish.  It was such an in-depth read I didn’t want to rush reading it. As soon as I began reading the first page I was sucked into Carrie’s story. I’ve previously read books on cancer survivors, but this one is my favorite by far.  Carrie writes in an honest and open way about what it’s like to find yourself with cancer.  She seems to have the perfect life in Colorado raising her three kids with a sweet and attentive husband, but stomach pains throw her for a loop. Carrie lands in the hospital to find out what is causing her severe stomach pains and after many tests she finds out she has cancer and will need surgery.  Just having recently had a baby she doesn’t want to be away from her youngest by having to go out-of-state for surgery.  Carrie goes through hell and then some.  She’s honest with her struggles and doesn’t candy coat anything.  If you enjoy memoirs I highly recommend it.  Her story makes you examine your own life and what you find precious.  This is the kind of book you’ll find yourself rereading to gleam more wisdom from.

    Nanowrimo is going alright.  I finally reached 10K and feel like I got over somewhat of a slump.  Still trekking, but not liking my story.  I want to like what I’m writing, but it’s just turning out weird.  Of course it is fiction and who says fiction has to make much sense?  It serves me right for not thinking out my novel beforehand.  Letting my characters direct the story is making it move fast vs trying to boss them around, but I’m still not digging it. :(

    Tonight my family is celebrating my brother’s birthday.  Should be interesting and hopefully somewhat relaxing and not too, stressful.  Only time will tell with that.

    My plans for today are to Nanowrimo at least 5K more and read, nap and just plain relax.  This past week at work was tough, so I definitely need some BEING time. :)

     
    • thelittlevc 10:00 am on November 7, 2009 Permalink

      Go honey, go! I have plenty to keep me busy this weekend!:)

    • (Gardening)Jo 5:07 pm on November 7, 2009 Permalink

      Don’t worry about liking it yet! Just keep writing and go with the flow. Once NaNo is done, then you can go back and make it into something you’re pleased with. This is the roughest of rough drafts stage now!

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